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Setting Ourselve Up For The Day – The Lacanian Way

Lacanian theory, previously confined to academic discourse, is now gaining recognition as a powerful framework for self-understanding and personal growth. Jacques Lacan, a controversial French psychoanalyst, explored the intricate intersections of philosophy, psychoanalysis, and literature through his layered and complex writings. However, when it comes to unraveling the complexities of the human psyche, his conceptualization of The Real, The Symbolic, and The Imaginary—known as the three orders—provides valuable insights for self-development and the alleviation of suffering.

The orders are not separate entities. Rather, they’re interconnected dimensions of our conscious and unconscious lives. Lacan’s triad can be an incredibly liberating toolset to frame our daily experiences, offering fresh, insightful angles into our inner and outer worlds.

Let’s delve a little deeper, bearing in mind that the beauty of Lacanian theory lies not in its authoritative dictations, but in its inherent flexibility, its invitation to personal interpretations and meanings.


The Imaginary Order is the ego’s territory, luring us with deceptive illusions and false promises. It’s the place where we construct idealized versions of ourselves and others, fabricating narratives to satisfy our desires and define our identities. Here, we engage in a relentless battle between the ‘I’ and the ‘Other,’ often staging a dramatic confrontation.

However, we need to be alert to the mirages this realm may project. For instance, we might start the day imagining that all our social interactions will be havens of compassionate and kind connection. But in doing so, we may risk becoming a slave to an idealized image of human connection, causing distress when reality falls short.

Here are some reflections for The Imaginary order which might be worth thinking about as we begin a new day:

1. What desires and dreams do I have for today?
2. Are there any desires or dreams I have today that may be unrealistic or based on illusionary notions? How can I approach them with a balanced perspective?
3. How might my self-image positively or negatively influence my experiences today?
4. How can I ensure my actions today reflect who I truly am, not just an idealized image of myself?
5. How can I let go of concerns about how others perceive my actions today and instead focus on acting in alignment with my values and intentions?
6. How do I imagine others will perceive my actions today?
7. What steps can I take to manage my expectations of others, allowing space for their different perspectives and actions?
8. How can I remain open to new information and adjust my perceptions of others based on their actions and intentions, rather than relying solely on my imagined perceptions?
9. What actions can I take today to bridge the gap between who I am and the idealized image I may hold of myself? How can I embrace my authentic self more fully?
10. How can I cultivate self-compassion and acceptance, recognizing that my worth is not solely determined by the attainment of an idealized self-image?


The Real is what resists symbolization. It is the abyss, the chaos, the unutterable and unformulated, raw, and often overwhelming reality of existing as a self-conscious, hyper-social, language-using primate. The Real encompasses those experiences that leave us speechless, awestruck, or even terrified. It’s the stark reminder that there are parts of existence we cannot control, predict, or fully comprehend.

The Real, while often associated with trauma and anxiety, also holds the potential for profound understanding and enlightenment. Throughout history, Zen monks, therapists, philosophers, spiritual teachers, mentors, coaches, artists, writers, scientists, and researchers have played pivotal roles in pushing all of us into a direct confrontation with reality.

Consider the Zen monks of old like Master Linji Yixuan who employed a confrontational teaching style, utilizing physical gestures and striking blows to jolt his students out of their fantasies and into the present moment. These approaches aimed to awaken disciples to the true nature of existence, beyond intellectual understanding.

Similarly, therapists also sometimes employ strategies to help individuals confront the real and foster personal growth through techniques like role-playing and empty-chair dialogues, or by gradually exposing clients to the realities they fear or avoid.

In both practices the aim is to facilitate personal growth and enlightenment by guiding individuals toward a direct, honest, and unfiltered experience of reality.

Reflections for The Real:

1. What uncontrollable factors will I face today, and how can I prepare for them?
2. Are there any uncomfortable truths or realities about myself that I need to confront or address today?
3. Are there any situations today where I might encounter the gap between reality and my perceptions or expectations?
4. How can I respect and acknowledge the reality of others’ experiences today?
5. How can I cultivate gratitude for the simple realities and ordinary moments of today?
6. What aspects of my reality today require acceptance rather than resistance or denial?
7. What boundaries or limits do I need to set to maintain a healthy relationship with the demands of reality?
8. Are there parts of today that feel overwhelming or chaotic?
9. How can I stay present and in touch with the reality of each moment today?
10. How can I find meaning and purpose in the mundane or seemingly insignificant aspects of my day?


The Symbolic Order is the societal script. It’s the realm of language, laws, culture, and norms. Our roles as parents, children, employees, or citizens are choreographed in the Symbolic. The danger here lies in becoming a mere player, losing our individuality within the labyrinth of societal expectations.

To engage with the Symbolic, we need to examine how we communicate, interpret, and co-create our social reality. It invites us to question, challenge, or conform to societal norms, balancing our desires with the expectations of our social roles.

Reflections for The Symbolic:

1. What societal expectations or norms am I grappling with today?
2. How do my tasks today relate to my roles within various societal systems (e.g., family, work, community)?
3. Are there any narratives or societal scripts that I’m expected to follow today?
4. How can I balance the influence of societal symbols and expectations with my own values and beliefs?
5. How can I use language and symbols to better understand and express my experiences today?
6. What symbolic rituals or traditions can I engage in today to deepen my connection with my culture or community?
7. Are there any assumptions or stereotypes associated with certain symbols or labels that I should challenge or question?
8. How can I use creativity and imagination to reinterpret and redefine the symbols and narratives that shape my experiences?
9. What alternative perspectives or marginalized voices can I seek out to broaden my understanding of the symbolic systems I engage with?
10. Are there any power dynamics or inequalities embedded within the symbolic structures I encounter today, and how can I address them?

Lacan invites us to consider these three orders as lenses through which we perceive and interpret the world. We might recognise that there is an inherent power in questioning our selves in this way, a drive towards autonomy.

By contemplating the dynamics of The Real, The Imaginary, and The Symbolic, Lacan invites us to delve into the depths of our psyche. Through this exploration, we gain the tools to construct our own unique roadmap for navigating the day, transcending the hidden recesses of our consciousness.