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Unveiling Your Authentic Self: A Personality-Focused Approach to Sexuality and Identity Issues

Understanding and navigating one’s sexuality and identity is a deeply personal journey, and one that can sometimes be fraught with confusion, fear, and even pain. For those grappling with such issues, a personality-focused approach to therapy can provide a compassionate framework for self-discovery and acceptance.


Sexuality and identity are integral components of our being, shaping how we perceive ourselves and interact with the world around us. Like these facets, our personality is also a fundamental part of who we are. It dictates our natural inclinations, patterns of behavior, and ways of relating to others.

Personality-Focused Psychotherapy recognizes these inherent traits and seeks to explore how they might interact with our sexuality and identity. For example, if you are naturally introverted and introspective, you might grapple with inner conflicts around your sexuality or identity in solitude, leading to a heightened sense of isolation. Or, if you are a highly sensitive individual, societal prejudices or expectations might cause you significant distress.

Understanding these facets of your personality can provide valuable insights into your unique journey of sexual and identity exploration.


Personality-focused psychotherapy can work hand in hand with a range of other therapeutic strategies that I use in my practice to address sexuality and identity issues, such as:

1. Sex Therapy: This form of therapy aims to resolve sexual difficulties and improve sexual relationships. When paired with a personality-focused approach, it can be tailored to accommodate your unique traits and needs.

2. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT can help you identify and modify harmful patterns of thinking related to your sexual identity, making it more effective when adapted to your personality type.

3. Expressive Therapies (Writing, Art, Music): These therapies provide a creative outlet for expressing and exploring your feelings around sexuality and identity. For those with creative or artistic inclinations, expressive therapies can be a particularly valuable tool.

4. Mindfulness and Acceptance-Based Therapies: These approaches encourage a non-judgmental acceptance of one’s thoughts and feelings, which can be helpful in fostering self-compassion and acceptance of one’s sexual identity.


Understanding your personality can help you navigate the complexities of your sexual identity with greater clarity and compassion. It’s not about changing who you are, but about embracing your unique personality and using it as a tool to explore, understand, and accept your sexuality and identity.

Moreover, this approach isn’t just about addressing issues or challenges related to sexuality and identity. It’s about fostering a deeper connection with yourself, and in doing so, creating a life that feels genuine and fulfilling.

In the end, personality-focused psychotherapy is about becoming the best, most authentic version of you – a version that encompasses your unique personality, as well as your sexuality and identity. It’s about learning to navigate your path with grace, self-compassion, and a sense of empowerment.

Remember, you are more than just a label or category – you are a unique blend of personality traits, experiences, desires, and identities. In the safe and empathetic space of personality-focused psychotherapy, you can start to unveil this authentic self, with all its complexity and beauty.

If you’d like to arrange an initial consultation session to talk more, or perhaps connect for a 15-20 minute “vibes” chat on the phone, let’s organise that for us on WhatsApp (07804197605), or via email if you prefer.